I would like to give those people who send me friend requests on FB a disclaimer of sorts. Seriously, whenever I click that friend icon I find myself wondering just how long before I post something that this person will find offensive or I wonder how long before this new ‘friend’ posts something I will find shameful or most unfriendly. So, I am providing a list that describes the kind of person that I am – thereby giving potential friends the option to friend me or not to friend me (that is the question). – No, it isn’t. Remember – choice is good.
What describes me:
1. I am a liberal: By liberal I mean that if I were to find myself in a lifeboat (I would like to think) I would attempt to get as many people safe in the boat with me rather than follow the “sink-or-swim” ideology. And, if in my democrat/socialist zeal, I post items you find offensive – feel free to block or unfriend me. I’m okay with that.
2. I am an African-American: Just know that I will see you for the potential bigot you are when you tell me some of your “best friends” are, black, Negro, or colored (I know, sounds crazy in 2013 but…). The ethnicity of your friends does not matter to me. You are either a decent person or you are not and, in my mind, the ethnic make-up or your friends bears no relationship to your decency. Also, please don’t use me as the token African -American friend to show others just how diverse your friendship pool is. Oh, before I forget, I am a light-skinned African-American so don’t tell me I am different. I am human – no different from you or any other human being.
3. I am a teacher: Right now I teach at the local community college after retiring from 22 years at the high school level. So, if you happen to come across my picture or a post of mine that brings back fond memories of me as your teacher – just know that I tried my best to see the potential for goodness in all my students – that includes you. My approach to teaching was always that I wanted to be the kind of teacher that I would want for my own son. I am kind. I am generous and compassionate. If you, for whatever reason, feel compelled to post mean-spirited posts making fun of: poor people or people on public assistance, Planned Parenthood, Hispanics, Native Americans, and/or blacks, just know that, as your former teacher, I will feel a sense shame and embarrassment just before I unfriend you in a most unceremonious fashion. Please understand there are those who were not born with luck or providence on their side. And if you can’t help someone then, please, don’t hurt them or their image in a post that may appear on my page. I will not stand silently by and let more crap be heaped upon those less fortunate.
And if you never saw any of the above personality traits as part of my personality in the years that you’ve known me, then I’ve done something wrong. Yet another reason NOT to send a friend request.